The weeks of my kid-life start on Saturdays. It's the first day off of the weekend and it provides a nice way to 'reset' everything back to normal.

The day starts with an alarm clock, set at the usual waking up time. I can sleep in a little if I want but it's better to get up and get ready for the day right?

I usually wake up in a soggy diaper. If it's not too wet, I'll relax in bed for a bit, maybe watch videos or cartoons. There's isn't too much of a rush soo I take it easy.

Once I decide to get up, I'll go brush my teeth and get ready for a bath of shower. I turn on the water and go get my clothes ready. I like laying my clothes out before I go into the shower. It's one of my favorite things to do. First I pick a diaper for the day. Then I pick some cute undies to go over the diaper. Next I'll pick a shirt, I really like Poke'mon and so I got a lot of pokemon shirts! Then some cute socks! And finally something to wear that covers my lower half! Maybe overalls or a skirt or skirtalls. Today it's gonna just be shorts! Oh and I got to get one last thing for my outfit. I got to pick a chastity cage!

So here's what's laid on my bed, as the shower runs in the background.

• A thick tykables camelot diaper with a red dragon on it
• A pair of red-trimmed briefs undies with little monkeys on them
• An Eevee t-shirt
• Some khaki colored shorts with a pokemon seat-belt buckle belt
• Some matching pokemon gen1 starter socks
• A small size pink and white chastity cage with the key and lock.

I like to let my caretaker know what I picked, sometimes I send him a picture or just message him. I change out of my soggy pants, grab my cage and key and take it into the shower. When I shower, my favorite scents are soft scents, fruits or flowers. I also like baby shampoo, the bedtime scent is my favorite! I take time to carefully wash my hair and my body. At the end of the shower, I put on my cage and set the pieces in place, and after I step out of the shower, I lock the cage. Cage is locked from now until next Friday night. Chastity is a part of day-to-day normal attire, so it's just something I wear. My caretaker has a real non-negotiable stance on chastity. I dry myself off and go to my bed to get dressed.

During my diaper change I pay special attention to all things, lotions and powders, got to be well protected from any rash or irritation. I tape up the diaper, then slip on my undies, then shorts and then shirt and socks. I put my belt on and I'm dressed. Next I go and brush my hair gently, to get the tangles out. There's some slight bulging from the diaper under my shorts but it's no big deal, no one will really notice.

Next I take my chastity cage key, there's an extra bigger key on it. It goes to a lock out plug. What does the lock out go to? The magic wand! (A buzzy toy!) I lock the magic wand and put it away. Then I place the keys in a special jar. Key is off-limits from here going forward.

Now clean and dressed I take time to do some big-kid responsibilities. Do some chores, make food, maybe go out and run errands.

The diapers and chastity are so normal and day to day that I often completely forget about them. I just use my diapers as needed and don't even think about it. Once chores and responsibilities are done, I get to playing video games? Which ones? Well I like a lot of them! And I'll do this all day, and check my chats and communications and spend the rest of the day relaxed and light hearted. I check myself throughout the day and change if I need to. (Though camelots might take a little longer than a typical diaper.)

After the day is done, I'll change into sleep wear. Sometimes it's just a shirt and diaper but sometimes I like to wear my nightie. And so I slip a nightie on. I don't like to go to bed wet, so I like a diaper change right before bed, with the same attention as the first diaper. I snuggle up with a plushie, watch some videos and then snooze. Sometimes I like to nom on my pacifier too when I'm in the mood.

And that's pretty much my Saturday! What do you think? Too complicated? Anyways thank you for reading. Stay tuned for day 2!

Luvs

Alex

I forgot I had this thing. Oh who am I? I'm Alex! I'm just a little with a little access to this little blog thingy. I guess I should introduce myself. Ummmm. Hi! I'm Alex! I'm a 30-something abdl who lives a lifestyle of a little kid when I don't have to be responsible for anything. I like to think my age is something like 7 in little space. (But I get told i'm littler than that sometimes.) I wear diapers most of the time. I love cute outfits, I super love colors and designs. I wear chastity most of the time too(Even if sometimes I really don't want to! Sometimes you gotta do stuff you don't always wanna do right?) Um. I consider myself non-binary, but I lean stronger toward the fem side of the spectrum, with a tiny bit of boyishness sprinkled in there somewhere. I don't care too much about pronouns so either one works. My favorite toy is my puppy plushie. I sleep with him in my bed every night! Hmmmm I don't know what else to say... so uh.. stay hydrated and rock on! I'll post something again soon!

Luvs,

Alex

When a caretaker and a little meet online, especially if they're nearby to each other, there will be that interest in going to that next level. Moving from chat to real life. This step can create a lot of anxiety and stress for both the little and the caretaker, especially with lack of experience. However, if approached carefully and thoughtfully, the first playdate can be both rewarding and enriching for a new burgeoning relationship.

Pre-playdate checklist

Generally speaking, you're going to want a reach a few key checkpoints before it's time to plan the playdate. These guidelines are designed to prevent a potentially bad or toxic experience.

Make sure you have things in common

Nothing is worse than hanging out with someone who you cannot have a conversation with. Just because you both like diapers does not mean you are a good match. You should share some hobbies or interests like similar video games, books, TV shows, movies, sports, activities, etc. That is not to say you should both only like the same things, but more importantly that you have some sort of common ground for small talk.

Make sure to talk through voice or video

While chatting through text is certifiably easier online, voice and video is significantly more revealing of relationship compatibility. Can you carry on a conversation? Do you giggle at each other's jokes? Can you stand each other's voices? These are all questions that can and should be answered.

Make sure you've seen each other

There is a very possible likelihood you will not find each other attractive. Someone's personality could be immaculate, but if you can't stand to look at them, there exists a real hurdle to building a relationship. Make sure you both know for real what the other looks like and that you're both happy with what you get.

These may seem like commonsense points, but in the rush of a new relationship, these checkpoints can be overlooked or glazed over in an attempt to make the playdate happen. It's important to resist this urge in order to make sure mistakes aren't made and there are, as they say, "no ragretz."

Meeting for the first time

The first time a caretaker and a little meet can either be at the beginning the playdate, or before the playdate at a separate time. This depends on the comfort level and experience of both playmates. Generally speaking, I've always rolled directly from meeting into the playdate, but for some that might not be as easy. Logistically it can also be problematic for two separate meetings if the playmates are not close to each other. This is definitely an important conversation to have between the little and caretaker to make sure both are comfortable with the meeting and playdate arrangements.

For the initial meeting, it's important to pick a neutral location, meaning neither the caretakers nor little's house. This is to allow for mutual comfort (and discomfort) in setting. Preferably this location should be somewhere between the caretakers and little's house but logistically this cannot always happen.

It's important that wherever the venue, there's opportunity for easy exit in case of a breakdown during the meeting, as well as reasonable ability to converse and socialize. I find a city is always a nice place to meet, because it allows an assortment of venues to entertain each other in throughout the first meeting.

Littles and Caretaker's should use this time as a repeat getting-to-know-you period where you chat and become more comfortable with being in each other's presence. This should not be a time to talk about your kinks or ABDL interests, nor a time for ABDL play of any sort (not even diapers). There will be plenty of time for that later.

Needs and Limits

Littles come in all shapes and sizes and with an assortment of different preferences and skittishness. Some will be happy to be changed by any nice stranger while others are very private and will only expose themselves to those who are closest and dearest. This means that the first playdate can look vastly different depending on the little.

Diaper changes tend to be a difficult, yet important checkpoint for every little. Let's be clear, babies need diapers and they need diaper changes. However, their openness and willingness to be changed by a new caretaker can vary widely. It's important that either beforehand or at the beginning of the playdate that this is discussed.

Specifically, the caretaker and little need to decide for the first date:

• Can the caretaker check the little's diaper?
• Can the caretaker change the little's diaper?
• What sort of accidents are okay and expected?

These decisions set the stage for the first playdate. While the preference should be towards the affirmative, not every little is ready and willing to allow that from the get go. Be aware that a little and caretaker should attempt to reach a point in the future where the caretaker is in charge of changes wholly and completely.

Finally, it's important that all concerns and potential conflicts are discussed beforehand as well. Nothing is worse than hitting a hard limit on the first playdate and creating disappointment in the relationship. Always have a yellow and red safeword to steer play back before it's unmaintainable.

Let the playdate begin

Whether it is directly after meeting in person or another time completely, one should invite the other over.

The key to a perfect transition is easing in. Both the caretaker and little should start in regular clothes and work their way forward together. There shouldn't be a switch to caretaker/little mode once in the door; this creates an artificial sense of little space which can be uncomfortable and feel fake. The goal is to make natural transitions throughout the playdate towards a caretaker and little playing together.

Start by hanging out together and doing things you both enjoy. Cartoons or video games or board games or some other mutual activity that is repeatable. After a few games/episodes, the caretaker should pause the activity and move towards getting the little in little space. This can mean being put into a diaper if not already, or a change of outfit. Nothing scripted, not a scene, just a small change which sets the tone of the rest of the playdate. Resume the activity and repeat after every few iterations, until the little looks and feels the part.

Once the little and caretaker get bored of the activity it's time to move on. During this transition phase between activities, there's a perfect opportunity to get close. The caretaker should attempt to initiate some much needed snuggles, which if the little is in the proper headspace, should reciprocate. From this point onwards, the rest of the playdate should involve some form of informal snuggling, from holding hands to lap time to laying together to blanket time to nap time.

If the little is open to it, the caretaker should make sure to intermittently check the little throughout the playdate. No leaks are allowed to ruin the fun. Changes are an excellent bonding opportunity and every little and caretaker should relish the first opportunity as something truly special. Be aware the first few times will be awkward and mistakes will happen, but building from mistakes and enjoying the experience together is by far the most important take away.

Also make sure to intermittently break playtime up with snacks and drinks. It's a great chance for close time between a caretaker and little and allow for a caretaker to try their hand at feeding. Bottles are super cheap too (between 5-10 bucks for a few 12oz bottles, just clip the nipple for easier drinking), so no reason not to have a few on hand.

Moving on and future fun

Every playdate must end at some point. Adult clothes should be put on and baby supplies should be put away. I find some final snuggles helps finish out a good playdate, as well as doing something the little enjoys most. When everything's said and done, aftercare should occur in the form of keeping contact and talking about the experience both at the end and afterwards.

A caretaker should message the little once they get home, and talk about the day in review. What was good? What wasn't so good? How can there be improvements? There can be a potential feeling of exhaustion of purging after an intense playdate for littles or caretakers, but it's important to fight that in order to retain relations and to build from the experience.

Don't let communication end the second you leave, and remember that this playdate was just the first of potentially many. If you truly care about the person you spent time with and want to continue onwards, make sure to let them know!

Feel free to continue the ideas and conversation in the comments below. I love to hear littles and other caretakers opinions and interests relating to playdates, so I look forward to hearing from you!

Meet Stickers: a web application in current development that will hopefully create a location where littles and caretakers can create goals, monitor daily achievements in a fun setting, and reward positive behavior.

The idea is to enable stickers which represent positive behaviors, add them to the calendar during the day to represent positive achievements, tally them up and then cash them out for rewards with your caretaker.

It's currently pretty rough, but I'm actively working on it and I want to get some criticism and offer it in it's current state for littles and caretakers who have been looking for something like this. I'll be adding features all throughout alpha and beta so the service will be expanding and have a little something new every day to enjoy.

So if anyone is interested, feel free to take a look here at https://stickers.biggestlittleguide.com

I'm also reachable at OMUFilly@gmail.com if you have comments or questions.

Thanks!
-OMUFilly

Meet Stickers: a web application in current development that will hopefully create a location where littles and caretakers can create goals, monitor daily achievements in a fun setting, and reward positive behavior.

The idea is to enable stickers which represent positive behaviors, add them to the calendar during the day to represent positive achievements, tally them up and then cash them out for rewards with your caretaker.

It's currently pretty rough, but I'm actively working on it and I want to get some criticism and offer it in it's current state for littles and caretakers who have been looking for something like this. I'll be adding features all throughout alpha and beta so the service will be expanding and have a little something new every day to enjoy.

So if anyone is interested, feel free to take a look here at https://stickers.biggestlittleguide.com

I'm also reachable at OMUFilly@gmail.com if you have comments or questions.

Thanks!
-OMUFilly

Hi all!

Currently working on a small project I think you guys will enjoy! I'm hoping to have it released in beta either the end of this week or early next week, so stay tuned.

Thanks!
-OMU

When a caretaker and a little settle down together, there is generally always a set of guidelines and rules which are agreed upon. One of the many conversations that comes up is how to act/exist in public. There are a few main rules that usually get decided on relating to this:

• Are diapers required?
• Is diaper usage required?
• Is acting/being treated little required?
• Does this change depending on the environment?

Let's break down these different questions one by one!

Are diapers Required?

This is probably going to be my most hardlined position but... Yes. Removing diapers when in public rather than at home removes all the work towards normalizing the concept. It's saying to the little, "Your underwear is only acceptable sometimes, and other times it isn't." The caretaker is setting the precedent that diapers are the little's de facto underwear, and once that's established, both should be all in.^[1]

Remember that a diaper, like most other items the little puts on, is just a piece of clothing, and is essential in creating a full outfit for them. A diaper underneath pants has no effect on anyone around them unless they make it have an effect. A good realization every little in diapers should have is...

1. No (non-ABDL) person can hear or see your diapers, despite how much you think it embarrassingly bulges.
2. If they hear your crinkles or see your bulge, they will never make the connection to diapers. There are 100 other more regular reactions a (non-ABDL) person would consider before attributing it to a diaper.
3. If after all that they realize it's a diaper, they will assume it's medical, and ignore it.

That is not to say there is not exceptions to the 24/7 rule. I will touch on this later on.

Is diaper usage required?

Instead of saying diaper usage is required, I'm going to say that potty usage is prohibited.

Chances are, littles will only spend 1-2 hour bursts outside the home, not including work. This makes the problems of potty become a lot more minimal. Any wetting accidents will be fine in a single diaper, and any messing accidents can be held off until when more appropriate.

The reason a little doesn't get a 'potty like a big kid' free card outside is because it promotes antithetical behavior like holding accidents until they're in public. This is incompatible to the ABDL lifestyle at home. The little and caretaker have a mutually understood agreement that as a little, they are to be treated like a little. While this is in varying degrees, the central point for many ABDLs is tied directly to diapers.^[2] The implicit rule that first and foremost, they are to be in diapers. The reminder that diapers are where little's use the bathroom is a constant reminder of being little.

Another important thing to consider however is the impact on the public of usage. Wearing diapers cause no burden on anyone surrounding the little. Usage, however, can effectively burden others with your lifestyle choices, which is rule #1 you should never break.

Never unwillingly drag others into your fantasy.

While urinating a diaper is effectively benign, not changing in due time while in public can create odors and potential leakage, which is unacceptable in public. Messing is significantly worse. If at all possible, bowel movements should be prevented or at least held off as long as possible. If such an accident does occur, or a leak occurs, it's up to the caretaker to take swift and effective action. This can mean a change in a family bathroom, or time to go home, but the little needs to be removed from the situation immediately.

Finally a reminder to caretakers:

• Always have a diaper bag (backpacks work great!)
• Bring more than one diaper
• Bring extra pants and socks

Nothing will make the little one blush more than needing to have their diaper changed in a family bathroom because they couldn't hold it.

Is acting/being treated little required?

What is acting little? What is being treated little?

Is it being cooed at and told to use your diaper? Erotic fiction might have you believe that, but I won't.

A caretaker 'treating' a little one little means facilitating the feelings and emotions associated with feeling younger. How does one do that? You don't tell someone to act a certain way or to do a certain thing. Adults need to want to do a thing to do it. It is the job of a caretaker to make a little willingly stop acting like an adult. And that's a tall task.

That being said, treating a little in public should be a similar extension as to how they treat the little at home. Remember that most important idea in a Caretaker and Little's relationship is the normalization. A little cannot thrive if they feel like they cannot be themselves.

A little should not feel public hinders the little side of them. While pacifiers can no longer be in their mouth, there's nothing wrong with holding hands. While they can't explicitly ask for their Daddy or Mommy, they can still submit to their caretaker's guidance. The juggle is to allow the little to express their mannerisms and make them feel accepted for that while not creating a scene.

The little should act and be treated little in public, but what that means doesn't have to be nearly as overt or intrusive into daily life as it sounds. The caretaker should facilitate an environment everywhere where the little feels comfortable acting as they feel. The little one at the same time can still look to their caretaker as a source of guidance and encouragement, and be true to themselves without being obscene.

Does this change depending on the environment?

You really are living a fantasy if you believe that there won't be times where diapering needs to stop. Sometimes it'll be family gathering and sometimes it'll be an emergency, but there will always be occasions where this kink needs to be paused for life's other events.

However, what doesn't and shouldn't change, is the bond between a caretaker and a little. Even if the little is out of diapers, that does not imply they're not still a little. The caretaker is still responsible for all the mental and emotional aspects of caretaking.

Diapers don't make the baby.

The caretaker/little bond takes on a more platonically inclined relationship without padding. There still exists the support structure of a caretaker, and the energy and imagination of a little. Hone that into conversation rather than snuggles. Still entertain all the personality quirks that are inherent. Realize that the dynamic is much deeper than physical items. A break every now and then from diapering truly tests the compatibility of this type of relationship.

In conclusion, Yes.

Thanks for reading! I'm currently looking for an editor, so if you would like to toss your hat it, it's definitely appreciated. I'm also looking for other contributors, so if you like the concept of this blog and want to create content, please shoot me an email at omufilly@gmail.com

8:10 AM: Covers come off and sleeper gets unzipped, it's my little one's first diaper change of the day. All the little aliens are gone in the front till halfway up the back, but that's to be expected. I untape the diaper and wipe him down, the cool morning air causing him to wiggle a bit as the wipes hit his somewhat delicate skin. I take special care to make sure his cage isn't too moist on the inside, and will possibly unlock him for a few moments to clean it out if I'm concerned. A new preschool diaper goes underneath his now clean tush, followed by destin around sensitive areas and powder front and back, making sure to rub in both sufficiently. With a quick tug up the front and a few tapes, he's all secured and ready to move on with the morning routine.

8:15 AM: I rezip up his sleeper for the time being to let him be as comfy as possible until as late as possible, before gently leading him by hand into the bathroom, making sure he brushes his teeth fully before I do mine. I make sure to do mine first so I can brush his hair while he does his, making it perfect for the day. Once satisfied, I'll lead him back and sit him on the bed, opening up the dresser to pick out a nice set of clothes for him for work. I pick out khaki shorts, a pokemon T-shirt featuring charmander, a nice button up with short sleeves, and soft soft mid length socks that are colorful. I help him out of the sleeper before pulling on the items one by one, making sure to go slow enough to give him a little affection here and there as I go, including a few kisses. I quickly pull on my clothes, which are pretty casual by most standards, before leading the both of us downstairs.

8:25 AM: Head downstairs for a quick breakfast. I quickly turn on the stove and heat up a pan, pouring some pancake mix from the fridge on the hot metal and creating a small stack for the both of us. I set out the plates on the table as my little one has already helped himself to a pre made bottle from the fridge while I worked. I cut up the pancakes on the little's place to be nice and bite size before applying syrup and setting the plate out on the table, letting him attempt to feed himself with a fork for today. I sit down with my own plate and make quick work of my food, sipping coffee and occasionally leaning over to wipe a bit of stray syrup off my little one's face.

8:45 AM: I open the rear door for my little one and let him hop in, before getting in the driver's seat myself. I pull out and quickly head into town to drop off my little at his work, waving goodbye and giving him a peck on the cheek as he waddles off to work, running a small shop in town. I then head off to my office and park out front, working an engineering job to pay for diapers. Throughout the day however we exchange texts back and forth, keeping in touch even though we're not together. We decide to have lunch in town at noon.

12:00 PM: I exit my office and hop into my car, heading to pick up my little. I park in front of his shop and smile as I see him excitedly head out to me as I stand beside my car. I greet him with a hug and a kiss, sneaking a quick check in front and back as we embrace, noting that he needs a change before the end of lunch. I lift my diaper bag out of the car and put it over my shoulder, letting him know what awaits him later on during lunch and eliciting a blush. I take gentle hold of his hand, before leading him down the street to a cafe we frequent.

12:10 PM: We enter the cafe and we get a table for two in the back corner, the cafe somewhat busy but quiet enough to give us our privacy. I open up the menu and offer three options to the little one, to which he removes one option, before I finally decide on the BLT for him, getting myself a turkey club. When the waitress comes, I order for the both of us, getting him a sprite as his drink and a coffee for myself. Ordering for him is commonplace, but it still elicits a small blush every time, which I enjoy a lot, and squeeze his hand under the table to let him know I noticed. We have small talk in the meantime about work and interests and goings ons as we wait.

12:25 PM: We receive the food, thanking the waitress, before I turn to my little's plate and take a knife off the table, removing the crust quickly and efficiently. I giggle as I then eat up happily, having a cutie blush a few feet away as I fill my tummy. Once we're both finished, I pay up for our meal, before taking his hand and leading him back to his work, currently empty without it's shopkeeper. I grin as we both head inside and to the back where, behind the register, I quickly lay out the little and begin his change, making him turn all sorts of colors as I wipe him down and swap diapers on the carpet, powdering him down and taping him up into a new preschool. With a quick redress and a kiss on the lips, I'm off once again, saying goodbye to my little until later in the day.

5:30 PM: I exit work after a long day, heading over to the shop and parking out front, heading in to spend time with my little as he finishes up work, teasing him quietly whenever the store is empty, and helping whenever there's too many, until closing time at six.

6:00 PM: I help him close up real quick, before leading my little out by hand to the car once the day has finally wrapped up. However, I'm tugged backwards as my little stands in the middle of the sidewalk, scrunching up his face a little and allowing a slight bend in his knees, clearly focusing on something very important for a split second. And a moment later, he's standing again and smiling. We both make eye contact and acknowledge what has just happened, before I open the door for him, pressing a soft kiss on his forehead, before whispering, "Let's get you home, little one~" I sit him in back with a bit of a squirm of opposition, before buckling him in myself. I then hop in the driver's seat and start the car, opening both mine and his windows, allowing for a crosswind and for his embarrassment to flourish.

6:10 PM: Once home, I open up his door and unbuckle him, standing and lifting him with a little effort out of the back, only able to do it every now and then and with his arms and legs fully around me. I unlock the door and carry him in, before laying him out on the sofa, pressing a soft kiss on his lips, before unbuttoning his shorts to assess the damage. Once I know what I'm working with, I head upstairs and get supplies, bringing it down and beginning work. I untape his diapers and wipe up amply front and back, the damage being not too bad, but definitely sizable. I wrap up the used diaper in a ball and swap it out for a new little paws diaper, before destining and powdering his tush up, taking special care to hit all the affected areas. Once satisfied I tape him up, pulling off his shoes and shorts afterwards as a reminder to his diapered state in the home, setting them in the laundry room for later. I then let him hop on his laptop to get reacquainted as I head to prepare dinner.

7:00 PM: Dinner is served. It's stirfry tonight, which my little sometimes bawks at due to the assortment of vegetables involved. However, I bribe him with a popsicle and it's like there was never even a problem. He makes short work of the meal, before he hops up and goes for a bottle. However, I stop him before he starts drinking, having finished my meal just as quick, and instead take his hand, leading him into the living room.

7:10 PM: I turn on the TV to Nick Jr., where Dora is playing reruns and set the volume low, before sitting down on the sofa and patting my lap. My little scrambles atop, where I gently lay him across my arms and rest his head in the crook of my elbow, taking the bottle he was holding with ease and instead teasing it at his lips myself. He latches on, having a good deal of practice at this point in time, and begins suckling up happily closing his eyes as he listens to the lull of preschool adventure on TV. I gently rub at his tummy as he suckles away, before hearing a soft hiss not even a minute in, smiling happily as the paws disappear on the front of his diaper before my very eyes.

7:30 PM: We're snuggling up at this point, before we decide it's time for a movie. I quickly turn the TV onto an old disney classic, Lady and the Tramp, letting the starting credits go as I suggest to my little that we build a pillow fort. As the beginning monologue starts, I aid him in building up the walls using pillows, the furniture, and blankets, before pausing the movie as I tell him to go grab three stuffed animals. He runs up and down the stairs as quick as lightning before producing his favorites: a teddy, a doggy, and slightly torn up monkey. I grin as I sit inside the fort and pat my lap, letting my little hop on before resuming the movie.

9:00 PM: I turn to my little and kiss the top of his head, having dozed a bit in my lap as the movie continued to the end, gently rubbing his tummy in an effort to wake him up, before standing up and helping him up myself. I then lead him up the stairs, as it's time to start preparing for bed. It's for the first time in the day that we enter his room, which could be confused for the room of someone much younger, with a changing table, dresser, and convertible crib bed, with all the fixins of bean bag chairs and stuffed animals and toys scattered about. I help him up his changing table, before beginning to undress him down to nothing, giggling softly as he sits there only donning his cage, before I do the same myself, taking all of our clothes and setting them in hamper. I then take him by the hand and lead him to the bathroom.

9:10 PM: Every other night we take a bath, so tonight it's bath night. I turn on the water flow and block up the drain, letting it fill with warm water, testing temperature as the level goes up. I then add baby bubble bath, not minding the scent for myself, and knowing how important it is for him. I then gently help my little in, before going in myself, lowering in and letting him sit in front of me in the tub, taking a washcloth and tending to him from head to toe. After wiping us both down, I move to shampoo, taking a cup and using it as an aid as I wet his hair and shampoo him down, making sure to cover his eyes for him in the process. Once everything is done and he's tired of being bathed sufficiently, I stand us both up, wrapping him in a towel first, before doing myself, emptying the tub as we exit the bathroom.

9:30 PM: I lead him into his bedroom once again, patting the changing table. Bedtime coming means space diapers, which I quickly diaper him up in, powdering him up an extra amount for overnight. Once satisfied, I help him down and begin dressing him up, deciding today on a light blue onesie. I help him in it, pulling it over his head like a shirt and securing it, before taking his favorite paci, a light blue one with a paw on the hilt and a white strap, and secure it to his collar, pressing the paci between his lips.

9:40 PM: I take him by my hand and lead him into my room where I strip the towel off and pull on boxers, jammie pants, and an oversized tshirt on, wrapping him in a tight hug and giving him a big kiss on the forehead.

9:45 PM: We head back to the bathroom where I once again supervise him brushing his teeth, giving his hair a soft brush before bedtime. Once satisfied, I lead him back to his nursery, having decided it's a crib night tonight for my little one. I lower the wall, letting him hop in, before pulling up the side. He whines because his best friends are downstairs, so I run down and up to go grab them, lowering them in his crib to put him at ease.

10:00 PM: Time for bed. He's in his crib, snuggled up, tired, and ready for sleep. However, little ones need a bedtime story. Tonight I decide to read puss and boots, picking the small book off the shelf and sitting beside the crib in a bean bag, lowering the lights before I do. I slowly read through it, making all the voices of the various characters (badly more than likely). By the time I close the book he's fast asleep in bed, tuckered out from the day. I turn on the monitor, make sure the night light is working, and close the door to a crack, before heading out, working on any adult tasks that need to be completed before my own sleep.

When a little and a caretaker reach a point in their relationship where they move in together, and they decide upon a set of rules as common ground, this typically results in a set of ideas and goals I'm going to set forth as a baseline for the rest of the advice in this passage.

• The little will be diapered a majority of the time, perhaps 24/7, but at least at all times while home

• The little has a job
• Babying and caretaking is important to both the little and the caretaker as a daily requirement for happy home life
• The caretaker is not a switch

It's important to start off by stating that there needs to be a mutual understanding between the caretaker and the little that you are both adults, you both have needs as adults, and everything should be considered in that context, and not a fictional one imposed atop that. What I mean by that is no matter what roleplaying has happened in the past or in the future, you are in a real relationship with a human who (clearly) likes you a good deal. You should treat them as they are as a person, not what you may have previously, or during an RP, fantasized.

That being said, as a person, a little is a complicated being. They have little interests and needs, while also being beholden to adult expectations and responsibilities. It's a careful line to tow in order to answer all these needs effectively and maturely as a caretaker, and it's definitely not for everyone.

As a caretaker, in order to effectively handle someone in this middle ground, you need to be understanding first, and accommodating in response. It's your responsibility to hit all the key points I outlined.

The binge and purge cycle that is so often talked about in the community as a 'given' is the result of littles and diapering being made taboo, not only in public, but in the home as well. The reality is that for some individuals, diapers, and the needs of a little, are requirements for some. Ignoring, or pretending these attributes don't exist or are wrong, creates a climate where a little feels uncomfortable with themselves, and who they are as a person.

It is important that a caretaker facilitates an environment at home where the creation of that taboo is not allowed. You must make it normal for the little to be allowed to express themselves, or this will create problems in the long term for mental health in the home. Dialog about diaper status, dressing, changing should be allowed to intertwine freely with conversation about friends, work, interests, news, and entertainment. The onus is on the caretaker to provide this environment.

Given the above, there should be a spoken and unspoken understanding at all times that because the environment is as free and open as necessary, there are expectations placed on the little one. The little one should be nearly always diapered, and have rules associated with said diapers. The little should be expected to have a reasonable amount of structure in home life as a child would. You can have the most caring and loving environment, but what's the point if you don't use it as intended (much like diapers :^) ).

Note that none of these requirements are fantastical in nature. Rules should be designed to act as guides and helpers in realizing the full potential and interest of the caretaker/little dynamic, not designed to milk it for all it's worth. You are not turning the little into what you want the little to be, you are allowing the little to flourish as they truly wish to.

In summarization of this bizarre rant, as a caretaker you need to:

1. Facilitate an environment where being a little is commonplace

2. Normalize speech and discourse in the household to reflect this environment
3. Create structure in the household that, rather than being binding, is freeing to the little's personality and interests